So, you’ve found a certain someone on LOVOO and you’re ready to take things to the next level – it’s time to finally start a chat with them. Of course, you want to make a good first impression (because, this could be the one, right?), but at the same time you don’t want to seem too eager.
It may surprise you to learn that there are many, many mistakes you can make when you first start talking to someone new. When it comes to opening lines, here are some things that you most definitely want to avoid.
Never start with a sexual innuendo
This one is a bit of a cliche, but there is a reason for that. All too often, people think that the best way to someone’s heart is through their pants. Remember, you don’t know the person on the other end of the chat. They don’t know that your sex joke is just that – a joke. If you start cracking wise about physical things, you’re likely to scare the person off.
Always avoid cheesy lines
All too often people hide behind cheesy openers and pickup lines. While you might find the odd person who finds them incomprehensibly endearing, most people will just think you’re a bit of a fool. You want to be genuine – not show people the cheesiest side of yourself. Saying “Is your name Skittles because you’re so sweet?” is not only awkward, it’s kind of tragic too.
Stop being boring!
The whole idea of chatting to someone new is that you pique their interest. Sure, you don’t want to layer on the charm too heavily, but simply saying ‘Hey’ or ‘Hi’ to someone and expecting a love letter in return is ludicrous. Before you type, think of something interesting to say. It will get you far.
Don’t even think about insults
At times, when people have no clue what to say, they panic and insult the person they’re talking to. Don’t do it. You might think you’re being flirty or that it’s just ‘banter,’ but the other person does not know that. That doesn’t mean that the compliments have to come thick and fast from your end, but you definitely want to avoid anything that could cause offense.
Quit putting on a front
And remember, when you’re chatting to someone new, it’s always wise to be as true to your own personality as possible. With any luck, you will end up meeting and dating this person. If you’ve been putting on a front and being fake the entire time you’ve been chatting, they will see right through you. It might sound overly simplistic, but please just be yourself.