Whether they like to admit it or not, women love a bad boy. They may claim to be looking for someone nice, dependable and kind. But when the diet coke man comes on TV, or a Fire Engine goes by, all that goes out of the window. The reason why is because on a primal level the majority of women are far more sexually attracted to men that are masculine, mysterious and aloof. It’s just in their nature.
So, what can a typical nice guy do about this harsh truth? Simple, learn how to unleash your outer bad boy without compromising your inner nice guy.
Hit the gym
I‘m not saying that you need to put on 20 pounds of muscle to attract women, though it probably wouldn’t hurt. What I am saying is that being active and taking care of your body is always going to make you more attractive. Not only will you look better, you’ll also feel better and that new found confidence will really show.
Dress the part
No you don’t need to stock up on leather jackets and slick back your hair, but a few simple changes can make all the difference. Start wearing more V-necks over crew necks to exaggerate the shape of your shoulders and don’t be afraid to invest in a pair of chinos that show off your ass either. Ditch the student look (hoody, jeans, tshirt) and try being smart/casual for a change.
Don’t be afraid to flirt
The more you talk to women and flirt, the more confident you are going to become and the more desirable you may appear. This is based on the fact that women are often drawn to men that seem popular to other women. Simply put, most women want what they can’t have and the competition makes having you all the more worthwhile. Just don’t be a prick about it.
Don’t be needy
This can take many forms. Maybe you are the person that replies instantly to every message you get, or maybe you always put yourself down as a joke? How do you think this makes you look to the other person? You don’t want to be the person that clearly has nothing better to do than reply to messages within seconds. You want to be the independent man that replies when he’s good and ready. And why put yourself down so much? Isn’t it better to earn an unexpected compliment rather than make someone feel like they need to reassure you all the time?
Learn to say no sometimes
Quite simple really. If saying yes is going to cause you hassle or inconvenience you, learn to say no sometimes. Otherwise people will start seeing you as a yes man and you’ll get taken advantage of. Remember your time is yours and you’ll never get it back. So invest it wisely!